There is a huge hue and cry globally
about living life happily. People talk a lot about their sorrow, miseries and hastily
spread unhappiness. Certainly, this is done to shed the burden of unhappiness and
try to obtain some happy moments. Every human being is craving to live life of the
king size happily but without encountering the bitter fact, that the more you
desire to be happy, more you need to put efforts. These efforts will assemble
both, the positive and negative remarks, replies and its reaction leads to
tough time with great turmoil.
What is being happy?
Being happy is a continuous
process of feeling joy on accomplishment of fulfilled task. When a
responsibility is given and when you do fulfill the assigned task as per the
expectation set, it makes you feel delighted. Your exuberant feeling spreads smile
or laugh. Contrary to this, the moment you fail to stand as per the set
expectation, you are carried away by negative emotions which brings in you
anger, fear and tears in your eyes. If you wish to be happy try not to set high
expectation.
There is a boy named Raghu who
works in a tea stall. His duty is to
serve tea when his master asks him to serve and after the tea is sipped by the
people, he goes to collect the glasses, wash them, wipe them with a clean cloth
and lay them in the tray so that his master can serve it to the other people.
Raghu is seen always with a smile
on his face. He is just eight year old. When we look at him outwardly, he is
deprived of a family, he has no scope of getting education, he has to earn his
livelihood at this tender age when other kids of his age, enjoys the love and
affection of their parents, go to school, learn and earn knowledge, friendship
and have fun.
His happiness was pinching me. I
wanted to know the reason of the gleam in his eyes, his never ending humming
and the sweet smile. Let me admit, I was jealous of this little boy. I could
hardly stop myself from questioning to this innocent boy;
Raghu, tell me one thing. I never
saw you unhappy. Whenever I met you, you were seen delighted and was always
smiling. Boy, I want to know, how can you be so happy every time?
Raghu said, “Di, I know that I
may sound weird, but from the day I knew that I am alone, I never grumbled on
being alone. I accepted this fact. When I see others, I can’t compare them with
my life because I firmly believe that nobody would like to compare their life
with mine. I don’t desire much because I know, with unfulfilled desires, I can
only accumulate sorrows. I have limited my expectation. I start my day with thanks
to the almighty God, and start my day with a broad smile on my face. The smile is
the only thing that I keep reminding to myself. Every passer by, who stops here
for a cup of tea, should be happy after sipping it. Hence, while serving and
picking up the empty glasses, I just spread smile. Indeed, I have nothing than
this smile which I can share. I also learnt that to spread smile is not that
difficult only if you wish to share it with good thought in your mind.”
I heard him patiently and to
acknowledge him, I did smile. What a wonderful lesson, this eight year old boy
had shared!
From the day of our birth,
entering the world of whims and fancies, out of mother’s womb to the time
buried in the tomb, we keep grieving for all the wrong expectations that we
have set. Setting expectation is not bad, but setting wrong expectation can be
painful, lead to disaster and unhappiness.
This unhappiness is contagious. When
you are unhappy and meet some one very happy, you wish to attack his peace by
telling him all the reasons of you being unhappy. Thus, affect his happy life.
Well, globally we are entangled
with the same act. Instead of spreading happiness, our focus is more on killing
others’ happiness leading to stiff, cut-throat and unhealthy competition, which
in turn spread jealousy, hatred, pain, making our meticulous life miserable.
Limit and set right expectation
to lead happy life…like Raghu.