Perception plays a vital role in building and enriching
relationship. I do understand that once the perception made, is difficult to
change. Particularly about those people who are of less importance in our life.
When you interact, share your ideas or advice, due to the set
mind or created perception against the person’s behavior, it becomes too
difficult for an individual to accept the given piece of comment. Every
individual is free to think and have their own created perception but problem
faced when the created perception about a person is misleading or wrong ones.
Well, this I have sensed many times when I interact with young
boys and girls who are very imaginative and feel that they are truly smart in
judging people and their personality. While creating the perception about an
individual they simply get misled by their own perception.
Not to deny the fact that others do play an important role in
giving their own judgment and helping to create the thought, this could be
either in favor or against the person.
Often I hear faculty members complaining about their students in
particular of their behavior which could be related to their way of talking,
the way of dressing and addressing others. Most of the time, you find a teacher
dissatisfied by their students because they respond badly or abruptly, too
difficult for students to understand the shared knowledge, its application is
the biggest challenge and so on.
Certainly, apart from teaching, as a faculty member, we need to
help students learn and apply mannerism, adhere disciplined behavior and
respond logically. Let the young learners know what they are learning with a
clear answer to why they are learning anything. Unfortunately, most of the
faculty members speak too high about theories but very rarely, you will find
them walking his/her talk.
The matter of fact is, young boys and girls, hardly listen to
their elders. They start living with a myth that they are pretty mature and can
act smartly every time. Indeed, they can do this when they learn the art of
self-introspection.
When you get a scolding or when others try to correct you,
instead of straightaway ignoring the person, steal a moment from your
thoughtful mind and try to explore the reasons that why the other person has
reacted in the way which was neither appreciated by you nor by the person who
said or did so.
I believe, a human being is called a social animal because it
knows the art of living with different complex and sophisticated people in the
most genteel manner. Well, this is slowly getting out of the lessons. The buzz
words - soft skills and life skills are much spoken but less applied in
practice.
Let me also put this in another way. Even when you wish to apply
the soft skills and nurture your life skills, people around you, barely show their
acceptance to your behavior. Contrary to this, they encourage you to follow
barbarian behavior.
My wish is to help the young boys and girls know the true art of
living. They should draw correct inference by learning to perceive and develop
the right perception so that positivity spreads everywhere.
