Tough to Change Perception...Why?

Perception plays a vital role in building and enriching relationship. I do understand that once the perception made, is difficult to change. Particularly about those people who are of less importance in our life.

When you interact, share your ideas or advice, due to the set mind or created perception against the person’s behavior, it becomes too difficult for an individual to accept the given piece of comment. Every individual is free to think and have their own created perception but problem faced when the created perception about a person is misleading or wrong ones.

Well, this I have sensed many times when I interact with young boys and girls who are very imaginative and feel that they are truly smart in judging people and their personality. While creating the perception about an individual they simply get misled by their own perception.

Not to deny the fact that others do play an important role in giving their own judgment and helping to create the thought, this could be either in favor or against the person.

Often I hear faculty members complaining about their students in particular of their behavior which could be related to their way of talking, the way of dressing and addressing others. Most of the time, you find a teacher dissatisfied by their students because they respond badly or abruptly, too difficult for students to understand the shared knowledge, its application is the biggest challenge and so on.

Certainly, apart from teaching, as a faculty member, we need to help students learn and apply mannerism, adhere disciplined behavior and respond logically. Let the young learners know what they are learning with a clear answer to why they are learning anything. Unfortunately, most of the faculty members speak too high about theories but very rarely, you will find them walking his/her talk.

The matter of fact is, young boys and girls, hardly listen to their elders. They start living with a myth that they are pretty mature and can act smartly every time. Indeed, they can do this when they learn the art of self-introspection.

When you get a scolding or when others try to correct you, instead of straightaway ignoring the person, steal a moment from your thoughtful mind and try to explore the reasons that why the other person has reacted in the way which was neither appreciated by you nor by the person who said or did so.

I believe, a human being is called a social animal because it knows the art of living with different complex and sophisticated people in the most genteel manner. Well, this is slowly getting out of the lessons. The buzz words - soft skills and life skills are much spoken but less applied in practice.

Let me also put this in another way. Even when you wish to apply the soft skills and nurture your life skills, people around you, barely show their acceptance to your behavior. Contrary to this, they encourage you to follow barbarian behavior.

My wish is to help the young boys and girls know the true art of living. They should draw correct inference by learning to perceive and develop the right perception so that positivity spreads everywhere.