Happiness in Doing

While passing the busy street of Can naught Place, New Delhi, I took a pause for a while as I could sense the hustle and bustle going in peoples' life. Each one of them showed different expression. The joy of bunking college, excitement among few to meet their friends, few were tensed because of the meeting getting delayed. 

I thought for a moment, the different shades of life are so well-drawn by the people. Due to its picturesque nature, even if I was not knowing any of them, still I could read their emotions.

Then my eyes caught hold of the cobbler. He had no shop. He laid his handy store between the arch of two pillars. Colorful shoe laces, different shoe brush to polish shoes, some instruments and the most important weapon - needle and thread... 

These were well placed. The cobbler was well dressed, took pride in mending the shoes, stitching the torn part so efficiently that it can conceal the damage; I noticed sudden flick of smile on his face, when someone stopped and asked for his service. He did his task meticulously. He diagnosed the problem and selected for the right instrument that can help him to repair. While he gets involved into his work deeply, one can hear him humming tune of the old melodious song from Bollywood. This went on with every customer.When he was at leisure, he took his Hindi newspaper to explore things that had happened in and around the world.

Often people fail to strike balance between their work and life. In the humdrum, they find it hard to reprimand their problem, as their expectation is always of those things which they do not have in present. Instead of experiencing joy while fulfilling any given task and appreciating efforts put forth, most of the times, our energy goes into unhealthy criticism, in targeting our life for the things that we failed to do, for the things which we longed for but failed to achieve.

Certainly, this man seemed to be the happiest person. The charm of joy was captivating. Though he had minimal means but was satisfied with what he did and enjoyed doing his work. Like the shoelaces of different colors, even his happiness were of different shades, of variable frequency.

Well, I learnt that real happiness is in doing things which you like to do; be it implied or applied. 

Change to Grow

Next to my house, there is a huge Neem tree (Azadirachta indica). Well when I was a child it was just a sapling that my father had asked to plant on one of my birthday. Due to proper care, the sapling now grew into full fledged wonderful tree. It provides shelter to different birds, insects; often in burning summer season, the hot wind is absorbed and is converted into the blissful cool air. Its shade is used by many. In every season, it stands as a care taker of human society. Though not human, but it is overwhelmed with human qualities. Looking at it, I felt embarrassed. Being a human, I hardly did anything for the society. Though enough qualified, blessed with good health and sufficient wealth, yet my contribution to the society is still meager. May be, the way I think is obsolete. To let new twigs grow, the old leaves shed itself whereas I carry the baggage of unwanted things without creating space for new things to get settled. I restrict my knowledge and skills because of wrong attitude, hence curtailing my growth. Well, the sapling that I have planted went of adjusting itself according to the place and environment, it had crooked and twisted branches; paucity of space did not limit its growth.

I felt when a tree can grow in adverse conditions, then why do the most intelligent being on this earth - HUMAN stops putting its effort in progressing. We keep lamenting and cursing our luck, rather working hard and putting our best - with which we can change our luck!

Change in attitude will certainly help us to grow

Education System

Mr.A is an introvert, good at Finance and Analytic skills, but as he dwells from country side of the beautiful nation named India, he lacks confidence while communicating in English. In all his interviews, he clears the first round as it is aptitude test, the second in some instances, where he is judged on his domain knowledge but had failed many times to clear the group discussion round or personal interview. The reason is very simple, he loses his level of confidence, the moment he is asked to speak in English. 

Will he get a job? For how long, he will have to face rejection? To work with a reputed and good organization...stands as his dream. Will this dream will ever turn into fact?

Mr.B, an extrovert by nature, extremely good at academics. He is scared of only one thing, number crunching. His foundation mathematics was not strong. He is great speaker, good at public speaking. His sense of humor is stupendous. People like his company. Unfortunately, he is struggling hard to enter into reputed company. The only hurdle that is stopping him is his quantitative aptitude test, which he finds miserable.

Ms.C still curses her school teacher who never told her the significance of right pronunciation and correct usage of grammar while talking. Her statement which is mocked by Ms.C may be thousand times still rings in my ear clearly - While talking, who bothers about tense and grammar. Does any teacher can say so? Whom should I blame? Teacher or Student...am confused.

Well, the story do not stop here. Teachers treat every child in an equal way. I used to consider this as blessing and thought often about the greatness of teachers in doing so...but now I felt, how thoughtless teachers are. How can every student be treated alike? Is it not the Teacher who needs to identify the latent qualities of very student whom he is teaching to? What about the special need that every child has and that has to be addressed by the teacher...

Along with the examination, the mindset of the teacher needs to get changed. It demands for 360 degree review to help teachers mentor their students with right knowledge. Students with this knowledge can pave their road map which will drive their career path and will allow them to be successful at some point of life without much hue and cry.

Teachers need to get trained...it is the basic demand from every student and an organization 

What gets measured can be managed?

People who feel and think that there are things that cannot be quantified I want to change their perception. Unless you do not quantify things you may fail to understand the significance of the product or person. Be it quality or the emotions, things that you can measure in terms of value, you will certainly pay more heed to it. When I say value, I do not want to restrict it with monetization. It could be something that can help in wholesome growth and development. It can help someone identify their weakness and then overcome the same. The moment you win and shun your weaker areas, you add value to self.

Adding value should be conducive. It should be holistic in approach. It needs to accomplish and satisfy your hunger; your dearth of knowledge is sufficed. You reach to new level and have more clarity in your vision.

Measure it so that you can manage the same. Manage things for betterment, to have browning options and to change for the sake of development. This process should go on to curtail unawareness, to create interest and to look things from different angles. It helps to move with the pace and people. Further increases your competency level too.

Many times we do measure things and try to manage them. In Indian context, I am talking about the relationship that we are bond with. Though there is massive change in the perception of the people, yet their attachment to family, friends and foes remain to be very strong. People do measure their emotional attachment and manage their relationship with zeal, even if their life is in midst of turmoil.

The one who is associated with an organization where he works is another great place where you can find people measuring their relationship and striving hard to manage them. They perform better, compete with their own set targets so that it becomes difficult or next to impossible for others to challenge the person.

Certainly to sustain a competent life with great amount of compatibility you will have to quantify your quality that can be measured and well managed with passage of time. This will certainly turn you as an unbeaten leader. 

Balancing Life

The moment I saw this picture, I started correlating it with my life. 

Hectic schedule, utterly busy life where I count days and had to wait longingly for weekend which comes and goes like a bubble floating in air.

I do many things but certainly not of my interest hence I bother least and doubt less about my skills and efficiency.

My mind is not at peace and is questioning time and again...

Am I really doing things that are worth praising, which adds value to my experience and can quantify my resume?

Well, after an hour of monologue, I thought let me not kill my precious time in doing things which I can not justify. Though it was tough for my mind to accept the decision taken by my soul, yet I mailed my resignation and left my office. I also apologized for my abrupt resolution.

I moved out of my office, felt really light like a bird taking flight and flying high in the sky, concerning least about worries and problems. I was free to do what I wished to. There was no other boss. I was boss of my own life and deeds.I went to the riverside, where I heard birds chirping in the sunny afternoon on the high branch of an oak tree. 

Thoughtfully in this soothing environment, started planning but this time I was cautious. I wanted to give equal importance to my personal and professional life. Rather getting tired in doing fruitless things, I believed in my self and wanted to pursue things which can generate money with equal or more amount of  satisfaction. I wanted to invest my time in doing things which can empower my skills with updated knowledge.

Well, I always had special liking towards Training. I started providing training to the people on different topics of life skills, but the most favorite was the Work-Life Balance, which I feel I have achieved and I want everyone to balance it happily.                                                                                                                                                                                               

Dream-Imagine-Will-Create

We all long to live happy and prosperous life. But to live happily, what do you think is more important?

·         Money

·         Knowledge

·         Dream

Dream

To be successful the very first thing that you have to do is dream big but with open eyes. Constantly visualize and search for the ways to fulfill the dream. It should be backed with undying passion, knowing that criticism will try to pull you back still you will put your best to prove yourself right. There will be many who will apprehend your thought. You need to win over these with a strong will power and belief in self.

Imagine

Start drawing proper road map to turn your dream to reality. You will have to imagine all the pros and cons that you will have to face in nurturing your dream. Be creative and think of new ways that can assist your thought process and that can drive your passion to the right track.

Will

This four letter word has mystical effect on your mind and soul. It will determine your thought process. It can ruin your creative or can invigorate the same thought process with loads of energy. Will can force your imagination drive through your nerves, pushing your adrenaline to function at a rapid speed. You will consider your set back as an opportunity to learn and do things in a different manner.

Create

It needs a strong gut feeling that can allow you to move ahead even when others are not ready to listen to your words. When you express your idea, it seems to be useless. Your perspective is always neglected, hence trying to betray you from achieving your dreams. Every word of criticism that you hear should create a new vision, allowing your mind to think in a creative way, the process of overcoming the difficulties shared by others.

Ultimately the result will be…

I can

or

I cannot

You should show your gratitude to all those who did not have belief in your ideas; in case, if the result is not in favor, still be thankful to all those who stood beside you in demotivating and telling you earlier that the dream that you want to bring in to reality is not possible. Hence, try to upgrade your thought process with some changes, collating new ideas and doing things in a different way.